by Emma | Dec 29, 2019 | Blog, Relationships
Sometimes, it’s just a case of recognising that there isn’t anyone to blame. Everyone did their best. Sometimes the best doesn’t seem good enough, but it was everything they could give at the time. It was everything you could give at the time.
And maybe that doesn’t make sense, maybe you feel there was something extra that could have been done, and you can’t think for the life of you why you, or they, didn’t do it. Perhaps there just wasn’t enough love there?
So what’s your answer? To fight ‘not enough love’ with the withdrawal of love? To punish yourself or them because if there wasn’t enough love then, less love is definitely going to make things better in the future?
Or perhaps, we can admit that we just don’t know, why it happened the way it did, but that there’s an opportunity to recognise that there IS a need for MORE love, and less judgement. Can we give ourselves, or them, that gift? Can we honour whoever got hurt the first time around by that lack of love, by showing compassion and forgiveness this time?
Can we be open to the possibility that the answer to a lack of love is more love, not less?
This is my invitation, and my desire for us all, to allow more kindness into our lives, and to be as careful as we can be with our egos, and our words, to be kind to each other
by Emma | Dec 28, 2019 | Blog, Confidence, Relationships, Resources, Self-Worth
If you didn’t have anyone to go to, nowhere to run…if you only had yourself to look to for the answers to your problems, where would you start?
We so often run away from ourselves, from our pain and from our suffering, and instead project our fears and anger on to those around us, then tell them they are the ones who need to change, or get help, in order to make us feel better.
Yet, any journey – any true healing you undertake – whether it be through talking therapy or anything else, asks you to look within for your answers, it asks you to heal YOUR wounds, so the external world can reflect a more peaceful internal world.
So, if you couldn’t get anyone else to ‘fix’ your problem, and your only option was to look inside yourself, to really be with, experience and accept the parts of yourself you have hidden from, run away from and rejected for so long, what would that look like?
That – the helping you take responsibility for yourself – is where therapists and healers like myself can help, support, guide and hold you. This combination of ownership, vulnerability, honesty and courage between you and whomever you ask to support you, is what creates a powerful alchemical container for change.
If your heart is longing for the freedom, authenticity and love that comes from no longer hiding from yourself (nor anyone else), have a look at my current programmes and see if we’re a match (links in bio) <3 .
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by Emma | Dec 26, 2019 | Blog, Relationships, Resources, Self-Worth
I so want this for you. I so very much want you to feel safe to be yourself, to bring all of you to the table, and, if not to feel accepted, to feel at peace knowing that the people who don’t accept you, are not your people.
I want you to know how it feels to be truly comfortable in your own skin, and truly comfortable showing the real you to those you love, and allow yourself to be loved fully, in return.
I want your relationships to feel open, and freeing, not restrictive or censored. I want you to know you are more than enough.
This is not an impossibility, nor is it inevitability. It requires courage, and a decision on your part to step forward, take responsibility, and choose love over the fearful patterns that are currently running in your unconscious. If you would like love, guidance, powerful healing tools, support and cheerleading on this journey, check out Clarity, Compassion and Confidence by clicking the link in my bio
by Emma | Dec 14, 2019 | Blog, Relationships
I leave Portugal tomorrow after two months here. It’s been….an experience. I’ve loved so much and also been so challenged by living with other people (and being the only one working, without an office space) when I’m so used to living alone. I’ve grown in ways I didn’t think I would, and been reminded just how much you can learn from judging less and looking inward for the answers (what triggers us in others is what we refuse to see in ourselves). There were times when I was blown away by the sensitivity and kindness of my friends, and times when I felt my work wasn’t being taken seriously and I felt uncomfortable in my own home. This was all my perception and projection of my internal reality.
Throughout it all, there was sunshine, rain, beaches, surfing, yoga, pizza and love. I was reminded why I do the work I do, and why it is so needed, and also how I am just moving through life figuring things out too.
I am so excited to be back in Wales for Christmas, before heading to Bali for a couple of months, and am so happy I can continue working with my amazing clients on this journey. So grateful to feel so supported right now
by Emma | Dec 10, 2019 | Blog, Relationships, Spirituality
Today I took a full day off to go exploring parts of Portugal I hadn’t seen, and be fully present to the experience.
It’s been an old habit that part of my mind is always on my work, my clients, my to do list. I love all these things, however, they have their own dedicated time.
It’s been a challenge for me to learn to stay present to what’s happening now, and fully integrate the experience. It used to be a way of regulating contact – keeping a safe distance from things and people in my life, before I learned to feel safe independently of whatever situation I found myself in.
Today (and many times), I chose to make a consistent effort to be present, even when my mind wanted to pull me away, and really enjoy each moment. It’s ok that some work didn’t get done, it’ll get done when it needs to.
Where do you live? Here, now? How much do you fully experience each precious moment of your life?
by Emma | Dec 7, 2019 | Blog, Heart Words, Relationships, Self-Worth, Spirituality
She had spent so long trying to find her place, and figure out ‘where’ she fitted in, before she realised that there was no ‘place’ she fitted into. There wasn’t a particular space that could contain her, because the space was a part of her. She had been looking at it backward the whole time, and thinking there was somewhere she could find ‘out there’ or someone, who would make her feel safe, somewhere she felt safe to be herself, when, in reality, she had to do that for herself.
And so, she asked herself each morning:
What can I do today to bring more peace, and love, into my life, and the lives of those around me?
Do the things have planned bring me closer, or further away from who I want to be, and what I want to do?
How can I embody love, and release the blocks to it’s constant presence in me?
