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Shame and Transparency

Shame and Transparency

There's a concept in A Course in Miracles called 'no private thoughts'. As it suggests, it speaks to the idea that instead of trying to hold thoughts in our private brain somewhere and keep them secret (normally for fear of being judged somehow), we learn when, where...

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What I’m learning about love

What I'm learning about love...We think that if we love too much, we will somehow run out.We've all had the experience of loving someone or something so much, that when we don't get back what we expected, wanted or thought we deserved, we feel depleted, defeated,...

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Teach only love

Teach only love

I had this quote printed and framed to hang in my kitchen. It means I get to read it many times a day.I'm also getting plenty of opportunities to learn what it means and practice it.For those who don't know, I'm currently in a year long ministerial training based on...

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Being supportive

Being supportive

I often talk to clients about the difference between enabling and supporting loved ones. I've had to learn this lesson myself, many times.We cannot take responsibility for anyone other than ourselves. We must learn to trust the ones we love to do what is best for...

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It takes a village

It takes a village

I've counselled enough immigrant parents over the years to have learned that the phrase 'it takes a village' could not be more accurate.I moved to Portugal to find my own village. Despite being very happy in splendid isolation in the middle of the Welsh hills, I think...

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What’s its purpose?

What’s its purpose?

I move house in a week's time. The process so far has been really easy and I've felt totally humbled and grateful to be able to move somewhere so beautiful (it's only 200m from where I am now which helps!). That said, it's only in the last couple of weeks I've...

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Have some integrity

Have some integrity

I posted a story the other day that said something like 'HAVE SOME FU*KING INTEGRITY'. I don't know how many people clicked the post to read the second slide, but in any case I thought I'd expand on it here.One of the most important things you can do for your mental...

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Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

When we put boundaries in place we're not saying 'I reject you' but instead 'I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know it's not the truth of who you are'.A Course in Miracles teaches that we are not separate, and we should never...

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Reflections

Reflections

I currently have an incredible teacher in my life who seems to bring me a lot of pain. As weird as this may sound, and seemingly outside of my control, I will randomly experience what they are experiencing. Sometimes it's physical pain, sometimes emotional pain. It...

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