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thoughts from me to you
Mirrors
Your reaction to peoples' behaviour is a mirror into your soul. Your triggers are signposts towards unhealed parts of yourself - the parts you often deny; the parts that are often linked to not feeling good enough. You can choose to be grateful for these triggers and...
Trust
I've been playing around a lot with the idea of trust recently and this is where I've ended up. I am often asked, how do I learn to trust? I don't know if it is a learning, but more a doing: a decision. At some point, you must take a leap of faith. No amount of...
Feelings
If you think you need to change your feelings depending on whether on not someone can handle them, please stop. Your feelings are your feelings. They are not symbiotic with another person's pain or happiness. Your feelings are just that: how you feel. They do not have...
Blocking happiness
I noticed last week that I have a tendency sometimes to limit my joy. Sometimes things are going great and I get a little niggle, a small voice that whispers, 'but when will it go wrong?'I noticed that I was actually not fully leaning in to things or experiences that...
Your ‘perfect’, is perfect
Every now and again I question if I'm doing 'enough' in the world; if I'm making enough 'waves' or big choices. There are people I've counselled and coached doing such incredible things in the world and I think for a minute, 'should I be doing that?' Maybe I should be...
Choices
We have the greatest gift in that we get to choose, in each moment, to live in the past, or the present. We get to choose to bring our memories, our experiences, our pain and our judgements into the now, or leave them where they were.We get to choose how to experience...
Planning
Life doesn't always go to plan.Taking aligned action is always far more powerful than trying to force a situation from a place of fear.If things haven't gone the way you thought they would, take a breath and ask yourself, what would love do?
I rule my mind
"I rule my mind, which I alone must rule." ~A Course in Miracles, Lesson 236We often think we are not in control of our thoughts and feelings. I get it. Sometimes it feels as if we've been taken over by something and are completely powerless to the thoughts and...
Authenticity
Deep down, all anyone really wants is our honesty and authenticity. When we honour and respect someone enough to be real with them, we give them a gift, and they, in turn, allow us to feel truly 'seen' and understood.This is my happy place. In the quiet solitude of a...