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thoughts from me to you
You get to leave

You get to leave

This may sound obvious, but unless you are actually imprisoned (and I appreciate that is a very real situation for many right now) you get to leave a situation if it doesn't feel safe, if it triggers you or makes you uncomfortable. Your experience is valid. That...

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Self-sabotage

Self-sabotage

She realised that she couldn't move forward whilst simultaneously rejecting or abandoning parts of herself.She couldn't leave part of herself behind on the journey. It was a part of her. She could reject it, or banish it to a deep dark corner of her being, but it...

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Why I have a therapist

Why I have a therapist

I've been working with my current therapist for the last eight years. For the first few years I saw her weekly, and now it's every other week.Yes, like all humans, I've had stuff to work through and heal, but for the most part now I see my therapist as a key part of...

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Shining bright

Shining bright

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to...

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What is it for?

What is it for?

She asked, 'Why did this happen?!' 'What is this for?!!!'. Frustrated with what was happening, not understanding how it could possibly be for anything other than to make her life harder, and desperately wanting to find meaning so her brain could make peace with it.She...

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Changes

Changes

Change requires energy. How we may judge it is irrelevant - all change requires extra energy. Change of routine, change of people, change of home or even intentions, goals and mindset.Becoming cognisant of this, we can be gentle with ourselves as we move through the...

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Reticular Activating System

Reticular Activating System

What is the Reticular Activating System?A bundle of nerves in your brain which controls the filtration of external stimuli and can influence your feelings and behaviour as a result.Part of it's role is to let in stuff that supports your beliefs in order to avoid...

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High standards

High standards

One of the biggest things I've committed to and have been navigating this last year or so is holding myself to a higher standard and to be the best version of myself that I can be. I guess this has been and will be a lifetime commitment for me, but this last year it...

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Choosing peace

Choosing peace

Whenever you feel activated, triggered, stressed or anxious, go instead and ask yourself, what feels most peaceful for me right now? Sounds simple, but if you give yourself a chance to really ask yourself this question and listen for the answer, it will guide you back...

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