Being supportive

Being supportive

I often talk to clients about the difference between enabling and supporting loved ones. I’ve had to learn this lesson myself, many times.We cannot take responsibility for anyone other than ourselves. We must learn to trust the ones we love to do what is best...
It takes a village

It takes a village

I’ve counselled enough immigrant parents over the years to have learned that the phrase ‘it takes a village’ could not be more accurate.I moved to Portugal to find my own village. Despite being very happy in splendid isolation in the middle of the...
Have some integrity

Have some integrity

I posted a story the other day that said something like ‘HAVE SOME FU*KING INTEGRITY’. I don’t know how many people clicked the post to read the second slide, but in any case I thought I’d expand on it here.One of the most important things you...
Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

When we put boundaries in place we’re not saying ‘I reject you’ but instead ‘I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know it’s not the truth of who you are’.A Course in Miracles teaches that we are...
Reflections

Reflections

I currently have an incredible teacher in my life who seems to bring me a lot of pain. As weird as this may sound, and seemingly outside of my control, I will randomly experience what they are experiencing. Sometimes it’s physical pain, sometimes emotional pain....
Is your pain great enough?

Is your pain great enough?

Your feelings are valid. There will always be people going through seemingly ‘worse’ situations than you. Their experiences are valid too. Feelings are not mutually exclusive, they are not in competition and they are not only allowed to be experienced by...