Our brains like to make sense of things. It’s why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because our brains need answers and our cognitive ability isn’t able to understand the wider context.We take...
Something on loss:When we lose someone, or perhaps even a beloved pet, there is often an urge to ‘fill the hole’ left with another person, a new relationship, a new pet. That strategy can seem to work temporarily, but when you put your happiness outside of...
There’s a couple of miraculous moments that happen in a healing process, when you know all the tears, all the frustration, blame, guilt and shame, and all the work you’ve been doing to heal them are finally starting to make a difference.The first is when...
Something that I’ve found helpful to work with the last week or so….A Course in Miracles is annoyingly clear when it comes to how to respond to others. Everything….everything is either love, or a call for love. That means if something doesn’t...
As you may know, I’ve spent the last four months in a therapeutic group facilitation training course. As I reach the end of that training next month, I am stepping bravely out into the world and actually beginning to host group spaces.I am eternally grateful to...
Friendship hack:I wanted to share something I’ve done for years, but always seems to surprise people. It’s a really small and easy thing to do, but seems to make a really big difference to your friends and loved ones.Every time a friend mentions an...
