It takes a village

It takes a village

I’ve counselled enough immigrant parents over the years to have learned that the phrase ‘it takes a village’ could not be more accurate.I moved to Portugal to find my own village. Despite being very happy in splendid isolation in the middle of the...
Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

When we put boundaries in place we’re not saying ‘I reject you’ but instead ‘I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know it’s not the truth of who you are’.A Course in Miracles teaches that we are...
Reflections

Reflections

I currently have an incredible teacher in my life who seems to bring me a lot of pain. As weird as this may sound, and seemingly outside of my control, I will randomly experience what they are experiencing. Sometimes it’s physical pain, sometimes emotional pain....
Stop forcing what isn’t flowing

Stop forcing what isn’t flowing

This goes against what many motivational speakers will tell you, but from what I’ve seen (and experienced personally) the happiest people are those that are in flow with what is, not fighting against it trying to force something to be the way they think it...
Is your pain great enough?

Is your pain great enough?

Your feelings are valid. There will always be people going through seemingly ‘worse’ situations than you. Their experiences are valid too. Feelings are not mutually exclusive, they are not in competition and they are not only allowed to be experienced by...
Triggered

Triggered

I had an eating disorder in my early twenties which, although awful, I was able to recover from.Every now and again, with certain triggers, I get the urge to starve myself again. It’s a coping mechanism which I understand now and can even appreciate or at least...