Our brains like to make sense of things. It’s why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because our brains need answers and our cognitive ability isn’t able to understand the wider context.We take...
There’s a couple of miraculous moments that happen in a healing process, when you know all the tears, all the frustration, blame, guilt and shame, and all the work you’ve been doing to heal them are finally starting to make a difference.The first is when...
“She was so painfully aware that she was a peripheral in almost everyone’s lives and never front and centre. If she disappeared, there were a couple of people who would notice and miss her, but for all the love she gave and all the effort she made, she...
Something that I’ve found helpful to work with the last week or so….A Course in Miracles is annoyingly clear when it comes to how to respond to others. Everything….everything is either love, or a call for love. That means if something doesn’t...
This morning one of the girls who works at the cafe I go to every morning, who’s only 17, stopped to tell me that whenever I’m in the cafe, she always feels really calm.That one small act of kindness and courage, that small act of sharing with me, made my...
I’ve been that person. The one stood in line at the grocery store, or waiting to pay for their coffee, fighting back tears that for one inexplicable reason or another have chosen just that moment to burst forth from the wonderful box they had been held in so...
