Being supportive

Being supportive

I often talk to clients about the difference between enabling and supporting loved ones. I’ve had to learn this lesson myself, many times.We cannot take responsibility for anyone other than ourselves. We must learn to trust the ones we love to do what is best...
Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

Boundaries and A Course in Miracles

When we put boundaries in place we’re not saying ‘I reject you’ but instead ‘I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know it’s not the truth of who you are’.A Course in Miracles teaches that we are...
Stop forcing what isn’t flowing

Stop forcing what isn’t flowing

This goes against what many motivational speakers will tell you, but from what I’ve seen (and experienced personally) the happiest people are those that are in flow with what is, not fighting against it trying to force something to be the way they think it...
Triggered

Triggered

I had an eating disorder in my early twenties which, although awful, I was able to recover from.Every now and again, with certain triggers, I get the urge to starve myself again. It’s a coping mechanism which I understand now and can even appreciate or at least...
Surviving and thriving

Surviving and thriving

Affirmations don’t work.If you have any kind of belief that conflicts with whatever you’re trying to tell yourself in any way, your RAS (reticular activating system) will throw that puppy right out the window so as not to cause any internal conflict. The...
On hopelessness and surrendering

On hopelessness and surrendering

A friend asked me the other day if I had ever felt overwhelmed when meeting a client for the first time and hearing their ‘story’ or the reasons why they were seeking support. Honestly, overwhelmed, no. In awe, deeply honoured and humbled….yes.When...