Letting go
Want to know what happens when you let those painful emotions out? What happens when you give in to the fight within yourself to keep them under wraps and out of sight? The world does not end. You do not fall apart. You feel them, you release them, and you stop...
Soul or ego?
Are you seeing the soul, or the ego?
Whenever we feel judged by someone, it’s either a mirror for us, or fear coming up for them. I realised today that sometimes I’m interacting with a person’s ego, rather than their soul.
Whenever an interaction doesn’t feel good for you, train yourself to check in – is your ego talking, or your soul? Are you responding to the needs of their ego, or to their soul’s?
Souls want love and peace and happiness for everyone. Egos are selfish and scared and defensive.
Souls see that we are all connected and can unite in love. Egos see themselves as separate and alone.
Souls want to bring us together. Egos want to keep us apart.
Souls are compassionate. Egos only see what they think will serve them.
Shift your focus. Look for the soul. When you interact from a soul level, that connection will give you the moments of happiness, love and completeness your ego craves but doesn’t know how to get
The dreamer of the dream
She listened to the wind outside her window, but no longer felt scared.
The wind could no more hurt her than the rest of her dream.
It could bang at the windows of her soul, but could not come in. It was no more real than the other dreams she dreamt, trying to keep herself safe from all the perceived dangers of the world.
Despite knowing for some years that all her thoughts produced form at some level, she only recently realised the power this gave her.
She could choose how she learned. She could choose how to grow.
She could choose what to heal, and how to truly see others.
She could choose to forgive, to not judge, to be humble, and above all, kind.
Every time she fell down on those things, she had the opportunity to learn them again, and try to do better.
The quicker she learned, the easier life became.
It all comes down to this – who did she choose to be?
Forgiveness in ACIM
The clearest explanation of the problem with forgiveness – from my ACIM teacher @jenniferhelenhadley :
Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?
Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.
In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.
Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.
Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.
Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.
Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.
Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.
And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.
True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.”
That’s self-delusion.
When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.
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Synchronicity
I’m feeling incredibly grateful today, not just because I’m being given more and more evidence that if I just surrender, get out of my own way and stop trying to control the ‘how’, everything I need will be provided for me, but also because SO many of my clients have, completely unprompted, started asking me about metaphysics, the law of attraction, A Course In Miracles, spirituality, psychedelics for mental health and all the other things I am super passionate about practising and learning about.
I work with people from all backgrounds and beliefs, and love supporting people where they are, without any need to try to influence them. Many of my clients who don’t follow me on social media have no idea of my interests and beliefs. So I absolutely love it when I get a sign from the Universe that more people are tuning into how much better it feels to lead with love, rather than fear, and are being guided to their own tools and resources to help them with that path, outside of our work together