Surviving and thriving

Surviving and thriving

Affirmations don’t work.If you have any kind of belief that conflicts with whatever you’re trying to tell yourself in any way, your RAS (reticular activating system) will throw that puppy right out the window so as not to cause any internal conflict. The...
On hopelessness and surrendering

On hopelessness and surrendering

A friend asked me the other day if I had ever felt overwhelmed when meeting a client for the first time and hearing their ‘story’ or the reasons why they were seeking support. Honestly, overwhelmed, no. In awe, deeply honoured and humbled….yes.When...
When nothing makes sense

When nothing makes sense

Our brains like to make sense of things. It’s why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because our brains need answers and our cognitive ability isn’t able to understand the wider context.We take...
Something on loss

Something on loss

Something on loss:When we lose someone, or perhaps even a beloved pet, there is often an urge to ‘fill the hole’ left with another person, a new relationship, a new pet. That strategy can seem to work temporarily, but when you put your happiness outside of...
Healing miracles

Healing miracles

There’s a couple of miraculous moments that happen in a healing process, when you know all the tears, all the frustration, blame, guilt and shame, and all the work you’ve been doing to heal them are finally starting to make a difference.The first is when...
I do not know what anything is for

I do not know what anything is for

⁷I do not know what anything, including this, means. ⁸And so I do not know how to respond to it. ⁹And I will not use my own past learning as the light to guide me now. (https://acim.org/acim/en/s/188#6:7-9 | T-14.XI.6:7-9)If we respond to the world from what...