This goes against what many motivational speakers will tell you, but from what I’ve seen (and experienced personally) the happiest people are those that are in flow with what is, not fighting against it trying to force something to be the way they think it should be.
Does that mean we give up and stop growing? Of course not. It does mean that when we feel we are fighting an uphill battle, we pause and let go of the ‘how’ and the ‘what’ we are holding on to in our minds.
When we are attached to something in the physical world (when I get X I’ll be happy or Y will make everything better) and we think we know how we need to make it happen, we very quickly lose connection to our intuition and our innate sense of ‘being-ness’ and ‘enough-ness’. Then things often get hard, really quickly.
I recently noticed this for myself with something that seemed to be going in one direction (‘right’) and then suddenly took a u-turn and now seems like it isn’t going that way at all. I realised I’d spent a few days trying to figure everything out and how to fix the situation, instead of coming back to myself and trusting that if it’s not flowing, it’s not right.
I taught myself a long time ago not to fight and struggle to be happy. That probably sounds incredibly privileged. It probably is. I also think it’s achievable for anyone. You cannot add fear and struggle up together and get them to equal love and happiness. Whilst not conventional maths, most people can recognise that that equation makes no logical sense.
If you feel like you’re fighting yourself, the universe or anyone else, please give yourself a moment to consider what it would be like to let go of the how and the what you think should be happening, and instead invite a miracle – a shift in perception that you could never have imagined previously. Then ask what would feel like the most peaceful next step. You might just be surprised.
Stop forcing what isn’t flowing
