by Emma | Dec 16, 2019 | Blog, Confidence, Self-Worth
Ever get that pull to get another qualification, get that job, buy that house or some other material thing you can use to identify yourself and your worth in the world: to make sense of who you are, what you do and why you’re here?
I’ve gone through major phases in the past where I’ve wanted to change my job, change my website, do another training, get another label to assign to myself, so as to explain and define myself to others, as well as myself. Just being ‘me’ didn’t seem enough.
Now I see that pattern when it pops up. I know what game my ego is playing. It’s trying to keep me separate from everyone by assigning me a unique role and label. It wants me to compare and judge everyone, including me, and create conflict where there is none.
What you do does not take away from what I do. What you achieve does not lessen my accomplishments. In contrast, your success is my success. Any way we can allow more expressions of love in the world, is a win win.
It’s true – I am a unique manifestation of energy. I have unique gifts and have a purpose.
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AND, that purpose will always be to embody love, and share love. How I do that is up to me, and I will use my gifts in a unique way to pursue that purpose, but the purpose remains unchanged.
We don’t need any special title, label or thing to make us worthy. We need to recognise that we are part of the oneness of all creation, and there isn’t anything BUT that. Can we find peace in knowing that we are part of something, with a unique path, which only we can tread, and which we are already treading, whether we accept / know it or not? Can we find joy in the successes of others, as we also benefit from them?
We can. Together. I’ve got you.
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by Emma | Dec 15, 2019 | Blog, Confidence, Self-Worth
It’s about being brave, not about being perfect.
There will be so many times where we reach, and fall short of where our egos, our family, our friends or our society think we should be.
This is not a failure.
Being brave, having the courage to be vulnerable, to show heart instead of bravado, this is where the true success is to be found.
In the space where vulnerability meets expectation, and softens the walls that we hold around ourselves to keep us protected and safe; this, THIS is what’s important.
Nothing will feel as good as honouring yourself on your journey and doing what makes you come alive. Do this, and nothing more. Be brave.
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📸: @loveluella photography
by Emma | Dec 14, 2019 | Blog, Relationships
I leave Portugal tomorrow after two months here. It’s been….an experience. I’ve loved so much and also been so challenged by living with other people (and being the only one working, without an office space) when I’m so used to living alone. I’ve grown in ways I didn’t think I would, and been reminded just how much you can learn from judging less and looking inward for the answers (what triggers us in others is what we refuse to see in ourselves). There were times when I was blown away by the sensitivity and kindness of my friends, and times when I felt my work wasn’t being taken seriously and I felt uncomfortable in my own home. This was all my perception and projection of my internal reality.
Throughout it all, there was sunshine, rain, beaches, surfing, yoga, pizza and love. I was reminded why I do the work I do, and why it is so needed, and also how I am just moving through life figuring things out too.
I am so excited to be back in Wales for Christmas, before heading to Bali for a couple of months, and am so happy I can continue working with my amazing clients on this journey. So grateful to feel so supported right now
by Emma | Dec 11, 2019 | Blog, Confidence, Self-Worth, Spirituality
Struggle is not synonymous with success.
We are so conditioned to believe the narrative that in order to be successful we need to have fought and struggled, that success doesn’t come easily.
Does this narrative work for you? If that wasn’t true, what story would you prefer? What if success was available independent of struggle? What if, success could be easy, or hard? What if there was space for a choice?
Question your beliefs. Every time something feels heavy, ask if it’s because of a story you’re telling yourself about what is. Change your story. You don’t need anyone’s permission to empower yourself.
Want someone to guide you through the process? Click the link in my bio to book a complimentary consult call – make success easier 💕
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Photo credit: @da1sybrown
by Emma | Dec 10, 2019 | Blog, Relationships, Spirituality
Today I took a full day off to go exploring parts of Portugal I hadn’t seen, and be fully present to the experience.
It’s been an old habit that part of my mind is always on my work, my clients, my to do list. I love all these things, however, they have their own dedicated time.
It’s been a challenge for me to learn to stay present to what’s happening now, and fully integrate the experience. It used to be a way of regulating contact – keeping a safe distance from things and people in my life, before I learned to feel safe independently of whatever situation I found myself in.
Today (and many times), I chose to make a consistent effort to be present, even when my mind wanted to pull me away, and really enjoy each moment. It’s ok that some work didn’t get done, it’ll get done when it needs to.
Where do you live? Here, now? How much do you fully experience each precious moment of your life?
by Emma | Dec 9, 2019 | Blog, Heart Words, Self-Worth, Spirituality
She didn’t believe for a second that life was always going to be easy, but what she had realised, was that, through any pain, there were two opportunities: she could stay bitter and resentful for as long as she needed, and fight the accepting of what is, or, she could grieve her loss, feel her pain, and ask how she could grow from this, and find meaning in the pain for herself.
Because isn’t this what makes the pain so much worse? The senselessness of it? Or the internal conflict that comes from wanting something to be different from that which it is? If we were able to sit with the pain, know it without wishing it was something else, and knowing that it would make sense in the future, and that some growth and meaning would come from it, wouldn’t that make the pain more manageable?
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Photo credit: @loveluella photography
