by Emma | Dec 31, 2019 | Blog, Self-Worth, Spirituality
I don’t believe in becoming ‘enlightened’. I don’t believe that one person is more ‘woke’ than another, or more conscious, or spiritually evolved or whatever you would like to call it.
That, to me, is spiritual bypassing. It’s putting yourself above another, or creating an idol of another, without recognising the oneness that is present in all of us. By saying, she’s on that level and I’m on this level, all we’re doing is creating the illusion of separateness, when most spiritual teachings speak of unity and oneness.
What I do see, is that we are all walking ourselves home, on our own journey, in our own unique and perfect way. It is not for us to judge if someone is ‘lost’ or ‘unconscious’. Maybe their ego is strong, but maybe that’s the journey their Higher Self chose for them. Maybe they don’t need us to interfere to help them ‘see the light’. Maybe, just maybe, they’re on the perfect path for them.
This year, I commit to trusting more. I commit to judging less, and knowing that everyone has their own sovereignty, and their own responsibilities, and that they know what they need to do for them. When people need help, or support, there will be a clear request for it, or an offer, given without expectation or strings. We can let people know we love them without needing to control or ‘guide’ them.
Loving without expectations. Reigning in our own egos and need to ‘help’ or rescue. This is the real lesson here
by Emma | Dec 29, 2019 | Blog, Relationships
Sometimes, it’s just a case of recognising that there isn’t anyone to blame. Everyone did their best. Sometimes the best doesn’t seem good enough, but it was everything they could give at the time. It was everything you could give at the time.
And maybe that doesn’t make sense, maybe you feel there was something extra that could have been done, and you can’t think for the life of you why you, or they, didn’t do it. Perhaps there just wasn’t enough love there?
So what’s your answer? To fight ‘not enough love’ with the withdrawal of love? To punish yourself or them because if there wasn’t enough love then, less love is definitely going to make things better in the future?
Or perhaps, we can admit that we just don’t know, why it happened the way it did, but that there’s an opportunity to recognise that there IS a need for MORE love, and less judgement. Can we give ourselves, or them, that gift? Can we honour whoever got hurt the first time around by that lack of love, by showing compassion and forgiveness this time?
Can we be open to the possibility that the answer to a lack of love is more love, not less?
This is my invitation, and my desire for us all, to allow more kindness into our lives, and to be as careful as we can be with our egos, and our words, to be kind to each other
by Emma | Dec 28, 2019 | Blog, Confidence, Relationships, Resources, Self-Worth
If you didn’t have anyone to go to, nowhere to run…if you only had yourself to look to for the answers to your problems, where would you start?
We so often run away from ourselves, from our pain and from our suffering, and instead project our fears and anger on to those around us, then tell them they are the ones who need to change, or get help, in order to make us feel better.
Yet, any journey – any true healing you undertake – whether it be through talking therapy or anything else, asks you to look within for your answers, it asks you to heal YOUR wounds, so the external world can reflect a more peaceful internal world.
So, if you couldn’t get anyone else to ‘fix’ your problem, and your only option was to look inside yourself, to really be with, experience and accept the parts of yourself you have hidden from, run away from and rejected for so long, what would that look like?
That – the helping you take responsibility for yourself – is where therapists and healers like myself can help, support, guide and hold you. This combination of ownership, vulnerability, honesty and courage between you and whomever you ask to support you, is what creates a powerful alchemical container for change.
If your heart is longing for the freedom, authenticity and love that comes from no longer hiding from yourself (nor anyone else), have a look at my current programmes and see if we’re a match (links in bio) <3 .
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by Emma | Dec 26, 2019 | Blog, Relationships, Resources, Self-Worth
I so want this for you. I so very much want you to feel safe to be yourself, to bring all of you to the table, and, if not to feel accepted, to feel at peace knowing that the people who don’t accept you, are not your people.
I want you to know how it feels to be truly comfortable in your own skin, and truly comfortable showing the real you to those you love, and allow yourself to be loved fully, in return.
I want your relationships to feel open, and freeing, not restrictive or censored. I want you to know you are more than enough.
This is not an impossibility, nor is it inevitability. It requires courage, and a decision on your part to step forward, take responsibility, and choose love over the fearful patterns that are currently running in your unconscious. If you would like love, guidance, powerful healing tools, support and cheerleading on this journey, check out Clarity, Compassion and Confidence by clicking the link in my bio
by Emma | Dec 24, 2019 | Blog, Resources
It’s ok not to be ok.
It’s ok to cry one minute and feel happy the next.
It’s ok to get angry at the world, or grieve the losses you’ve experienced personally, or as part of the collective.
It’s ok to be blissfully happy and feel totally in alignment with your highest purpose.
We are all having a human experience, and ALL our feelings are valid, simply because they exist.
The more we try to censor, deny or shame our feelings, the more we bypass our reality and our true selves.
Whatever is coming up for you today, it’s allowed. It’s ok. It’s real. And, if you need support, reach out, I’m here to help, as are the many helplines posted on my stories and others’. You are so very loved
by Emma | Dec 19, 2019 | Blog, Heart Words, Spirituality
Sometimes she felt so guilty for feeling so overwhelmed because of the choices afforded to her. She could do anything, which she believed was the same for everyone, but she also BELIEVED she could do anything, so those choices became more tangible for her than perhaps those around her.
And yet, in the freedom of choice, sometimes came the overwhelming fear of making the RIGHT choice.
Sometimes she would stay stuck rather than make a decision, because she didn’t know where to start, and so, eventually, some of the options would be removed and she could make a smaller choice, often the decision to not make a decision, and choose to stay as she was.
This is not how she wanted to use her free will, her power of manifestation and her intuitive guidance. It felt like a waste, especially in the face of those who didn’t feel they had the same opportunities.
And so she took a deep breath, tuned in, put her trust in her own intuition and took responsibility for her freedom. It took courage to listen to her heart and feel what was right, but it felt lighter, and freer when she did, even if she didn’t know how she was going to make it happen.
That taking responsibility, coupled with having faith in being guided to what was best for her, ensured she was always able to move forward, and be grateful for her ability to manifest her dreams
