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thoughts from me to you
Unavailable
It's OK to no longer be available for things, people, behaviours or environments that don't feel respectful, kind, or light you up. You don't even have to give a reason, justify yourself or apologise. Even if someone apologised, or there were extenuating...
Not your fault
You are not responsible for how people receive you. And. You are responsible for your intention and energy you project towards others. There is a balance between co-dependency (people pleasing, worrying about how to keep everyone happy and giving others power over how...
The plan
Sometimes, life does not show up according to the timeline we set for it. Sometimes life does entirely it's own thing and we're left thinking, 'Wtf?!'. In these moments when I notice myself resisting what is, thinking it should be something else, I have to laugh. Oh....
Surfing
Today I quit surfing. I first really learned to surf in Sri Lanka a few years ago, and enjoyed it, but since then it's definitely become something I've had to coax myself into (not helped by English oceans and weather). I'm not sure why it took me so long to realise...
Choices
We make thousands of choices every day. Mostly without thinking. Our brains learn patterns and choose what's best for us based on our beliefs and past experience. It's a really useful thing. It is also what keeps us doing the same unhelpful stuff, time after time...
A little update
Just a little update from me... I'm in Portugal for a little while, exploring beaches, surfing, making new friends and getting some sun on my face. I'm seeing clients as normal but loving getting a bit more balance back in my life after a couple of years of fairly...
Stop imagining
Stop imagining what isn't there.If you're thinking more than one step ahead, stop. Controversial advice I know. Probably not as helpful if you're flying a plane or some such thing. However, for everything else that's going on in your head, if you're worrying about the...
Judgement
Sometimes forgiveness comes really easily to me, othertimes it requires consistent effort - to catch the judgemental thoughts, the times I'm attacking with my mind. So much of what we do is unconscious. It's not until we decide we want to notice, that we want to feel...
Thought Timeline
Ever thought, 'OK - I've finally learned the lesson. I'm not going to let that happen again.' Only to have the same trigger or experience show up again?There is a time lag between our thoughts and form creation. This is wonderful because it gives us chance to change...