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Understanding your Inner Critic
She was sure at one stage, the voice in her head wasn't as mean as it became. She wasn't sure what had happened that caused it to shout so loudly, every time she tried to do something. The voice would tell her she wasn't good enough, she was kidding herself, she would...
Compassionate accountability
I hate when people ask me how long I've been doing yoga, because when I say nearly 20 years, I invariably get something like, 'Wow, you must be really good then!"The truth is, I'm not. When I first get on my mat in the morning I can barely touch my toes. I still have...
Can I?
Maybe the old you couldn't do it.Maybe this you, the new you, who's learned more, is still unproven in her abilities.The only way to get proof, is to do it anyway.You cannot be certain of your abilities until you test them. This is how you learn to trust yourself,...
Unavailable
It's OK to no longer be available for things, people, behaviours or environments that don't feel respectful, kind, or light you up. You don't even have to give a reason, justify yourself or apologise. Even if someone apologised, or there were extenuating...
Not your fault
You are not responsible for how people receive you. And. You are responsible for your intention and energy you project towards others. There is a balance between co-dependency (people pleasing, worrying about how to keep everyone happy and giving others power over how...
The plan
Sometimes, life does not show up according to the timeline we set for it. Sometimes life does entirely it's own thing and we're left thinking, 'Wtf?!'. In these moments when I notice myself resisting what is, thinking it should be something else, I have to laugh. Oh....
Surfing
Today I quit surfing. I first really learned to surf in Sri Lanka a few years ago, and enjoyed it, but since then it's definitely become something I've had to coax myself into (not helped by English oceans and weather). I'm not sure why it took me so long to realise...
Choices
We make thousands of choices every day. Mostly without thinking. Our brains learn patterns and choose what's best for us based on our beliefs and past experience. It's a really useful thing. It is also what keeps us doing the same unhelpful stuff, time after time...
A little update
Just a little update from me... I'm in Portugal for a little while, exploring beaches, surfing, making new friends and getting some sun on my face. I'm seeing clients as normal but loving getting a bit more balance back in my life after a couple of years of fairly...