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thoughts from me to you
Ripples
I want you to know that you are making waves in this world. It might seem fruitless sometimes but every step you take towards joy, towards love and towards peace DOES make a difference. It reminds your brain who you really are, and it reminds others of what it's like...
Surrender
When there is conflict within us, when we are holding onto a belief about something, or someone, or ourselves - when all the evidence points to the contrary - it hurts. We create resistance and incongruity within ourselves that causes us pain and upset. When we fight...
Listening
You cannot 'fix' anything (internally or externally) without understanding what's going on. Listening, to ourselves and others, requires practice but gives us answers we wouldn't have known otherwise. Ask a question. Take a breath, pause and listen for an answer.
Willpower, or not
I realised the other day after explaining how I work with so called 'bad' habits, behaviours and thought patterns in a much more compassionate way than trying to exert 'willpower' over ourselves to a client, that much of my theories and ways of working fit in very...
An alternative to beating yourself up
We have been taught to believe that being hard on ourselves, pushing ourselves and beating ourselves up is the way to reach our potential: a way to find happiness by being someone we can be happy with, the 'best' version of ourselves. Let me just repeat that logic for...
Unconditional
I don't really keep plants. I tend to 'over love' them and kill them. Accidentally of course, but they fair better when I purposefully ignore them. I was thrilled when my succulent dropped a couple of leaves and I managed to create whole new plants from them. Then I...
Smaller
I live in a smaller world than I did. My world full of travel and culture and freedom has shrunk to the same four walls and routine. I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm healthy. I live with space and family and am surrounded by beauty. I am grateful that I get to work and...
Lessons in love
I had a spiritual counselling session yesterday. Sometimes you just need a little extra self care. She asked me, if you were to make a prayer from this situation, what would it be? I said, I would pray for the courage to be vulnerable and open hearted. I would pray...
Keeping score
What if you didn't have to keep score? If you've ever sat and thought, 'I'm not doing it anymore. I'm not going to keep giving and giving and trying and trying when this person isn't making half as much effort as me', this is for you. For a moment, entertain the...