Self-regulation

Self-regulation

Maybe people think that they require discipline in order to thrive. They think that if they weren’t harsh and strict with themselves, they would fall off the wagon and live in squalor, eating take out and never exercising, forgetting to call loved ones or go to...
Miracles

Miracles

I’ve been watching this little bubble emerge on my driveway the last week or so. Finally, I saw an actual living plant sprout up through the tarmac. Many would call it a weed, and an annoyance since it broke up perfectly good tarmac, but I see it as a...
Trauma Response

Trauma Response

When we experience trauma, our survival instincts kick in. Sometimes we replay the events over and over, trying to work out exactly what happened, why and how it could have been prevented. We try to understand it. Other times we withdraw. We tell ourselves it’s...
Mirrors

Mirrors

Your reaction to peoples’ behaviour is a mirror into your soul. Your triggers are signposts towards unhealed parts of yourself – the parts you often deny; the parts that are often linked to not feeling good enough. You can choose to be grateful for these...
Trust

Trust

I’ve been playing around a lot with the idea of trust recently and this is where I’ve ended up. I am often asked, how do I learn to trust? I don’t know if it is a learning, but more a doing: a decision. At some point, you must take a leap of faith....
Feelings

Feelings

If you think you need to change your feelings depending on whether on not someone can handle them, please stop. Your feelings are your feelings. They are not symbiotic with another person’s pain or happiness. Your feelings are just that: how you feel. They do...