by Emma | Apr 18, 2020
As she turned her attention away from what she needed to do to get what she thought she wanted, and instead directed her focus on to the individual small steps that she was guided to take in order to be truly helpful, something miraculous happened.
She was reminded, once again, as she was every time she detoured from the path and found her way back, that she had always been, was and would always be, provided for. There was no need to worry, no need to try to figure things out, and the more she struggled, the more she would experience struggle.
When she allowed herself to surrender, to rest in love for herself and the world, when she forgave herself for trying to do everything herself and ignoring her small, kind voice of inner guidance, she was granted the feeling of peace she hadn’t realised she was missing, and followed her nudges to places where things fell into perfect place without any effort on her part. These places allowed her to feel truly valued, truly valuable, truly loved, and truly peaceful.
It doesn’t matter how many times you mis-step, you can always give up struggling and allow yourself to float and be held by the Universe. You are always supported. There is nothing you cannot come back from. We all have a choice – we can run the uphill race to the top of an imaginary ‘success’ mountain, or we can tune in, let go of thinking we know the best way, and allow the still small voice of our heart to lead us to somewhere far better than we could have ever imagined
by Emma | Apr 4, 2020
Don’t be afraid to say the wrong thing.
Sometimes we can let fear dictate our voices. We close down our thinking and our feeling because, ultimately, we don’t trust ourselves with the truth of our whole being, of the shadow parts and the parts we feel shame or guilt around. We fear how others may receive us, meaning we fear that part in ourselves.
We are rejecting ourselves in a time when everything we knew has shifted, and the only constant is the unknown.
There is no wrong or right here. There is only truth. We can choose to be discerning with how we share it, how we express it, but it is here regardless. We cannot change it, nor suppress it, just make our home within it. We can become comfortable with the truth of who we are, all of us.
I am inviting you to use this opportunity to accept the parts of yourself you have spent so long trying to run away from or avoid: the parts you thought were no good or broken, and the parts you thought no-one could love. EVERY part of you is lovable. You are NOT broken. You are whole and have unlimited potential. I believe in you.
Ask yourself what needs to move in order for you to love yourself, and if you need support, please reach out and ask – I’m offering on-going support via instant message, video and audio notes and am finding it such an incredible way to facilitate growth and support healing with my clients
by Emma | Mar 5, 2020
Don’t fight the struggle. If it feels stressful, or like you’re battling with something that doesn’t seem to want you to have what you want, stop. Wait. Accept what is and allow yourself to have patience and trust that whatever is meant for you is perfect, on it’s way, and will arrive with ease and grace.
Rest in what is. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we’ve decided we want or the way it’s supposed to be that we don’t even realise we’re stressing and pushing against ourselves. This is not how it is supposed to be! When we notice this, we can stop trying and allow instead. Just be with what is, knowing that everything is as it’s supposed to be having been fighting against myself for the last week or so on many many things
by Emma | Feb 27, 2020
I’ve worked with more than one client recently who realised that they were choosing to hold onto their own pain. They could see the light…just….but it was under a layer of pain that they were choosing on some level to hold on to.
Whenever I have more than one client experiencing the same thing, it’s normally an invitation to look within myself as well for the same thing. Where am I choosing to hold on to pain, instead of allowing it to transmute to love?
And the question then becomes….how do we ALLOW the pain to move (to transmute, shape shift, or move into the background)? For me, this work begins and ends in forgiveness. Forgiving ourselves, forgiving others, removing our judgements and opinions about victims and perpetrators, right and wrong and good and bad. Life happened. We had an experience. It felt painful. We saw it through the eyes of fear. How long do we want to continue to hold that pain? Will letting it in, accepting it and allowing it to move so we can see the light within, somehow mitigate or condone what happened?
It comes down to this: would we rather be right (I got hurt – I’m entitled to feel hurt), or happy (it happened, I don’t know why, so perhaps, I can see this situation with love instead of blame)?
by Emma | Feb 21, 2020
Last night in my coach training (which I’m currently taking between 10pm and 1am because of the time difference), we talked about being humble and curious when working with clients, and being more aware of our own judgements, bias and agenda.
Whenever I work with clients, I bring my whole self to the table. That doesn’t mean I share everything, but I am as transparent as possible, whilst recognising that the session isn’t about me – it’s about my client and what they’re experiencing. I don’t want to influence their knowing, understanding and insights in any way, just help them uncover them. I trust and know that only they know what is best for them.
And so, I am seeing so much affinity between what I’m (re)learning in my coach training, and what I understand from being a student and teacher of A Course In Miracles. When we can suspend our judgement, when we can recognise that we don’t know what anything is for, when we stop making meaning of things, or trying to make a situation fit into our version of what we want reality to be, we give ourselves the space for movement, for change, for feeling better, for feeling peaceful, for seeing through the eyes of love, instead of fear and ego.
I’m currently feeling into the best way to work with clients to get my logged coaching hours for accreditation (and whether this will be at a discounted rate). If you’re curious about working with me in a coaching capacity, where we can both learn and have profound growth, please send me a message and we can talk about how that might look.
Photo tb to Cornwall last March, cos I hear it’s pretty cold in the UK right now
by Emma | Feb 16, 2020
She made a decision, a long time ago, not to settle. She had lost, felt left behind, and been hurt too many times. She knew that the only way to change this was to choose differently for herself: to choose better.
And yet, she repeated the same patterns for many years to come. She choose again, chose better, lost herself, found herself, and chose again. As a pattern, it was tiring, and boring, and all together frustrating as hell, and she also knew that each time she realised she’d lost herself, she was a step closer to staying with herself longer the next time.
She chose again, she chose the challenge. She chose to stay, and work, because being afraid of life wasn’t something she was willing to accept any longer. So even if it was hard, even if there were tears, even if she had to course-correct another 100 times, she would continue to consciously choose better for herself: to choose love instead of fear
