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thoughts from me to you
Choosing pain
Sometimes we choose to stay in our pain. That's OK.Sometimes, there's a wounded part within us that believes we deserve to feel bad, or that continuing to feel bad gives validity to our initial upset. If we were to suddenly feel better, would we invalidate our...
Triggers
My triggers are not real. This is something my teacher said on her podcast a few weeks ago, and I find myself circling back to it regularly. At first I found it triggering in itself. 'Of course my triggers are real! I felt them. I didn't like how I felt. That's how I...
Use your words
What you think, and more importantly, feel, is what you will attract into your life. Become very aware of what you say today, are all your words a reflection of what you want? Are they peaceful, or do you find yourself moaning or being pessimistic? There is no shame...
Ripples
I want you to know that you are making waves in this world. It might seem fruitless sometimes but every step you take towards joy, towards love and towards peace DOES make a difference. It reminds your brain who you really are, and it reminds others of what it's like...
Surrender
When there is conflict within us, when we are holding onto a belief about something, or someone, or ourselves - when all the evidence points to the contrary - it hurts. We create resistance and incongruity within ourselves that causes us pain and upset. When we fight...
Listening
You cannot 'fix' anything (internally or externally) without understanding what's going on. Listening, to ourselves and others, requires practice but gives us answers we wouldn't have known otherwise. Ask a question. Take a breath, pause and listen for an answer.
Willpower, or not
I realised the other day after explaining how I work with so called 'bad' habits, behaviours and thought patterns in a much more compassionate way than trying to exert 'willpower' over ourselves to a client, that much of my theories and ways of working fit in very...
An alternative to beating yourself up
We have been taught to believe that being hard on ourselves, pushing ourselves and beating ourselves up is the way to reach our potential: a way to find happiness by being someone we can be happy with, the 'best' version of ourselves. Let me just repeat that logic for...
Unconditional
I don't really keep plants. I tend to 'over love' them and kill them. Accidentally of course, but they fair better when I purposefully ignore them. I was thrilled when my succulent dropped a couple of leaves and I managed to create whole new plants from them. Then I...