by Emma | Apr 24, 2020
The clearest explanation of the problem with forgiveness – from my ACIM teacher @jenniferhelenhadley :
Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?
Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.
In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.
Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.
Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.
Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.
Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.
Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.
And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.
True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.”
That’s self-delusion.
When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.
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by Emma | Apr 20, 2020
I’m feeling incredibly grateful today, not just because I’m being given more and more evidence that if I just surrender, get out of my own way and stop trying to control the ‘how’, everything I need will be provided for me, but also because SO many of my clients have, completely unprompted, started asking me about metaphysics, the law of attraction, A Course In Miracles, spirituality, psychedelics for mental health and all the other things I am super passionate about practising and learning about.
I work with people from all backgrounds and beliefs, and love supporting people where they are, without any need to try to influence them. Many of my clients who don’t follow me on social media have no idea of my interests and beliefs. So I absolutely love it when I get a sign from the Universe that more people are tuning into how much better it feels to lead with love, rather than fear, and are being guided to their own tools and resources to help them with that path, outside of our work together
by Emma | Apr 19, 2020
I will know the truth when my only motivation is to be truly helpful.
I will know that I am fully supported when I turn my focus from my outside perception of the world to my inner world.
When I recognise that I have everything I need in this moment, and trust that everything is exactly as it is supposed to be, will I know peace.
When I know peace, I can share peace.
Peace is available to me in every moment.
This is the only moment
by Emma | Apr 18, 2020
As she turned her attention away from what she needed to do to get what she thought she wanted, and instead directed her focus on to the individual small steps that she was guided to take in order to be truly helpful, something miraculous happened.
She was reminded, once again, as she was every time she detoured from the path and found her way back, that she had always been, was and would always be, provided for. There was no need to worry, no need to try to figure things out, and the more she struggled, the more she would experience struggle.
When she allowed herself to surrender, to rest in love for herself and the world, when she forgave herself for trying to do everything herself and ignoring her small, kind voice of inner guidance, she was granted the feeling of peace she hadn’t realised she was missing, and followed her nudges to places where things fell into perfect place without any effort on her part. These places allowed her to feel truly valued, truly valuable, truly loved, and truly peaceful.
It doesn’t matter how many times you mis-step, you can always give up struggling and allow yourself to float and be held by the Universe. You are always supported. There is nothing you cannot come back from. We all have a choice – we can run the uphill race to the top of an imaginary ‘success’ mountain, or we can tune in, let go of thinking we know the best way, and allow the still small voice of our heart to lead us to somewhere far better than we could have ever imagined
by Emma | Apr 7, 2020
There is grey here. There are so many unknowns and my brain just wants to be pointed in a direction with a clear goal and told to go. Run with it. Go ‘do’. And yet, here we are, in the grey. Where there is no alignment in one particular direction, and where creating boundaries and fences and rules for myself won’t help my fundamental uncomfortableness with this situation.
Here, is an invitation to sit. To not do. To not constrict, and restrict, but to expand, to create opportunity, to allow more in, rather than block more out.
Here is where we meet the grey.
Here is where we make our choice – to run, or to stay.
To choose the unknown with an open heart, and ask it what is has to teach us, or to run blindly away and hope we already know best.
I am choosing to stay. I am choosing to sit with the grey and see what happens. I want to know what it has to teach me. Do you?
by Emma | Apr 3, 2020
Can physical distance bring you closer? Yes.
To yourself? Yes.
To others? Yes.
To the Truth? Yes.
There is no distance between the Truth and Love
