Boundaries are not something you need in order to give freely. In fact, putting boundaries in place in order to feel safe giving something, is the very definition of conditional giving. It is giving with the intention of receiving only certain energy in return.
The thing that I admire in you most: confidence. The part of you that stands boldly in front of me, unapologetic and clear on who you are.
Intention. It’s such a loaded word for me today. If my intention is unclear, does that mean I shouldn’t say anything? Should I keep my big mouth shut unless there’s only love coming out of it?
I have been super impatient [in the past]. I wanted to get to where I thought my success was. I wanted to find peace in a future version of myself, because I thought that’s where it lived.
I took all the courses, gained all the qualifications, took the ‘right’ jobs, dated the ‘right’ guys (most of whom turned out to be completely wrong, of course) and looked for a new box to tick every time I checked off a different one and found I wasn’t where I wanted to be yet.
Love is a whole body experience. There is no such thing as a love which is conditional. That isn’t love. It’s control, and fear. If you’ve been ‘loved’ in a way that feels conditional, you’ll know what I mean. It doesn’t feel expansive and light and fun, it feels heavy, oppressive and addictive.
Sometimes honest is too honest. Sometimes the truth is too much. Sometimes it’s unnecessary…..when it comes to sharing.
We sometimes think that in order to validate our own truth, or to make it ‘real’ to us, we need to share it. We need to tell someone. I don’t think we do.