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Make healing easier
Perhaps there's an argument that putting a band aid (plaster for the Brits amongst us) on a wound won't fix anything. It will simply give the wearer the ability to pretend everything is OK and allow them to mask their feelings and pain.This is absolutely true. We...
Boundaries and Surrender
Boundaries, surrender, flow and autism is an interesting mix. As someone who really advocates for strong boundaries, I also understand that they only work if you really believe in them. All the parts of you have to be agreed that this boundary is a non-negotiable. I...
Acceptance vs Understanding
New clients often tell me that they know logically what's happened or why, and so they can't understand why they still feel or behave in a certain way. Like rationalising something should somehow automatically 'fix' the emotional side.Unfortunately, those two sides of...
Surrender
I'm currently working with a dog trainer for my dog Tilly. Moving to another country and culture having lived a pretty quiet life in rural Wales is an adjustment for us both and having some guidance and support so she feels safe and secure is super important for...
Inconsistency
There's a negative connotation that is associated with inconsistency. We seem to think that we have to show up in whatever way consistently in order to do well in whatever we're trying to do. I also say the same thing to clients with therapy - show up consistently...
Why don’t I feel good enough?
(one possible reason)If we grew up in a household with tension, but perhaps we didn't understand why, our child brains went looking for an answer as to why things didn't feel good. Since we are reliant on our parents / caregivers to feed and take care of us, we don't...
Peace
Peace is not something we go find outside of ourselves. That's always annoyed me a bit. Peace seems very illusive sometimes. We want it, but we also don't always know how to 'get' it. Where is this 'peace'? Where does it live? If it's within me, why can't I access it...
Integrity
I've been thinking a lot about integrity recently. It's a word that has taken on a strong meaning for me in recent years. To be in integrity with yourself means to be integrated: as one with oneself.When we don't feel right within ourselves it's a signal that we're...
Being vs Doing
Some of us are programmed to Do. We find our safety, our comfort and our purpose in our output and in our doing. We measure our success by our progress and our confidence by our strength and achievements.Some of us are programmed to Be. We flow with our cycles and sit...