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thoughts from me to youWhat I’m learning about love
What I'm learning about love...We think that if we love too much, we will somehow run out.We've all had the experience of loving someone or something so much, that when we don't get back what we expected, wanted or thought we deserved, we feel depleted, defeated,...
Teach only love
I had this quote printed and framed to hang in my kitchen. It means I get to read it many times a day.I'm also getting plenty of opportunities to learn what it means and practice it.For those who don't know, I'm currently in a year long ministerial training based on...
Being supportive
I often talk to clients about the difference between enabling and supporting loved ones. I've had to learn this lesson myself, many times.We cannot take responsibility for anyone other than ourselves. We must learn to trust the ones we love to do what is best for...
It takes a village
I've counselled enough immigrant parents over the years to have learned that the phrase 'it takes a village' could not be more accurate.I moved to Portugal to find my own village. Despite being very happy in splendid isolation in the middle of the Welsh hills, I think...
What’s its purpose?
I move house in a week's time. The process so far has been really easy and I've felt totally humbled and grateful to be able to move somewhere so beautiful (it's only 200m from where I am now which helps!). That said, it's only in the last couple of weeks I've...
Have some integrity
I posted a story the other day that said something like 'HAVE SOME FU*KING INTEGRITY'. I don't know how many people clicked the post to read the second slide, but in any case I thought I'd expand on it here.One of the most important things you can do for your mental...
Boundaries and A Course in Miracles
When we put boundaries in place we're not saying 'I reject you' but instead 'I reject this version of you which you are currently choosing because I know it's not the truth of who you are'.A Course in Miracles teaches that we are not separate, and we should never...
Reflections
I currently have an incredible teacher in my life who seems to bring me a lot of pain. As weird as this may sound, and seemingly outside of my control, I will randomly experience what they are experiencing. Sometimes it's physical pain, sometimes emotional pain. It...
Stop forcing what isn’t flowing
This goes against what many motivational speakers will tell you, but from what I've seen (and experienced personally) the happiest people are those that are in flow with what is, not fighting against it trying to force something to be the way they think it should...