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Miracles
I've been watching this little bubble emerge on my driveway the last week or so. Finally, I saw an actual living plant sprout up through the tarmac. Many would call it a weed, and an annoyance since it broke up perfectly good tarmac, but I see it as a miracle.With...
Trauma Response
When we experience trauma, our survival instincts kick in. Sometimes we replay the events over and over, trying to work out exactly what happened, why and how it could have been prevented. We try to understand it. Other times we withdraw. We tell ourselves it's done,...
Mirrors
Your reaction to peoples' behaviour is a mirror into your soul. Your triggers are signposts towards unhealed parts of yourself - the parts you often deny; the parts that are often linked to not feeling good enough. You can choose to be grateful for these triggers and...
Trust
I've been playing around a lot with the idea of trust recently and this is where I've ended up. I am often asked, how do I learn to trust? I don't know if it is a learning, but more a doing: a decision. At some point, you must take a leap of faith. No amount of...
Feelings
If you think you need to change your feelings depending on whether on not someone can handle them, please stop. Your feelings are your feelings. They are not symbiotic with another person's pain or happiness. Your feelings are just that: how you feel. They do not have...
Blocking happiness
I noticed last week that I have a tendency sometimes to limit my joy. Sometimes things are going great and I get a little niggle, a small voice that whispers, 'but when will it go wrong?'I noticed that I was actually not fully leaning in to things or experiences that...
Your ‘perfect’, is perfect
Every now and again I question if I'm doing 'enough' in the world; if I'm making enough 'waves' or big choices. There are people I've counselled and coached doing such incredible things in the world and I think for a minute, 'should I be doing that?' Maybe I should be...
Choices
We have the greatest gift in that we get to choose, in each moment, to live in the past, or the present. We get to choose to bring our memories, our experiences, our pain and our judgements into the now, or leave them where they were.We get to choose how to experience...
Planning
Life doesn't always go to plan.Taking aligned action is always far more powerful than trying to force a situation from a place of fear.If things haven't gone the way you thought they would, take a breath and ask yourself, what would love do?