Love is a whole body experience. There is no such thing as a love which is conditional. That isn’t love. It’s control, and fear. If you’ve been ‘loved’ in a way that feels conditional, you’ll know what I mean. It doesn’t feel expansive and light and fun, it feels heavy, oppressive and addictive.
Sometimes honest is too honest. Sometimes the truth is too much. Sometimes it’s unnecessary…..when it comes to sharing.
We sometimes think that in order to validate our own truth, or to make it ‘real’ to us, we need to share it. We need to tell someone. I don’t think we do.
Relationship: it’s such a loaded word. We covet them. We fear them. We want a them to be ‘good’, and not ‘bad’. We search for them and then run away from them, all with the same underlying longing to love, and to be loved; to be a part of something bigger than ourselves, to grow and to be grown.
Why do we worry? Why do we think we don’t have enough time to accomplish all that we want to? Life is about relationships. Love a little more deeply. Smile a little more often. Laugh. Cry. Feel. Wake up and get honest with yourself. Then get honest with others. There is all the time in the world for that. Is the whole reason for your existence
I got this tattoo when I was in love with a man, who possibly never loved me back. I didn’t get it ‘for’ him; that would make me far too vulnerable, but I got it as a reminder. I’ve never told anyone the real reason.
A reminder that whoever comes into our lives, whether for a fleeting second to catch our eye, or into our bed for what seems like forever when time stands still, we are forever enmeshed with them.
In the infinity of time and space, that connection will always live on, long after you say your goodbyes and walk out of each others’ lives.
The lessons we can learn from that connection will keep coming, becoming intertwined with new connections, new loves, new feelings…and the energy will grow and morph and develop, and be forever with you.
Do not mourn for a connection that wasn’t as grand or long lasting as you expected – it has had the exact effect on you it was supposed to <3