Your feelings are valid. There will always be people going through seemingly ‘worse’ situations than you. Their experiences are valid too. Feelings are not mutually exclusive, they are not in competition and they are not only allowed to be experienced by...
I had an eating disorder in my early twenties which, although awful, I was able to recover from.Every now and again, with certain triggers, I get the urge to starve myself again. It’s a coping mechanism which I understand now and can even appreciate or at least...
Affirmations don’t work.If you have any kind of belief that conflicts with whatever you’re trying to tell yourself in any way, your RAS (reticular activating system) will throw that puppy right out the window so as not to cause any internal conflict. The...
A friend asked me the other day if I had ever felt overwhelmed when meeting a client for the first time and hearing their ‘story’ or the reasons why they were seeking support. Honestly, overwhelmed, no. In awe, deeply honoured and humbled….yes.When...
Our brains like to make sense of things. It’s why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because our brains need answers and our cognitive ability isn’t able to understand the wider context.We take...
Something on loss:When we lose someone, or perhaps even a beloved pet, there is often an urge to ‘fill the hole’ left with another person, a new relationship, a new pet. That strategy can seem to work temporarily, but when you put your happiness outside of...
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