Make healing easier

Make healing easier

by | May 19, 2023

Perhaps there’s an argument that putting a band aid (plaster for the Brits amongst us) on a wound won’t fix anything. It will simply give the wearer the ability to pretend everything is OK and allow them to mask their feelings and pain.This is absolutely...
Boundaries and Surrender

Boundaries and Surrender

by | May 9, 2023

Boundaries, surrender, flow and autism is an interesting mix. As someone who really advocates for strong boundaries, I also understand that they only work if you really believe in them. All the parts of you have to be agreed that this boundary is a non-negotiable. I...
Acceptance vs Understanding

Acceptance vs Understanding

by | May 2, 2023

New clients often tell me that they know logically what’s happened or why, and so they can’t understand why they still feel or behave in a certain way. Like rationalising something should somehow automatically ‘fix’ the emotional...
Surrender

Surrender

by | Apr 30, 2023

I’m currently working with a dog trainer for my dog Tilly. Moving to another country and culture having lived a pretty quiet life in rural Wales is an adjustment for us both and having some guidance and support so she feels safe and secure is super important for...
Inconsistency

Inconsistency

by | Apr 26, 2023

There’s a negative connotation that is associated with inconsistency. We seem to think that we have to show up in whatever way consistently in order to do well in whatever we’re trying to do. I also say the same thing to clients with therapy – show...