by Emma | Jan 3, 2020
This is today’s reality. I woke up this morning ready to have a super productive day after being sick for nearly a week. In the end, I drove to town for a shop that was shut for the holidays, did some creative stuff, and managed a small walk in the sunshine with my dog.
I didn’t change lives. I didn’t do a tonne of mindset work, and I didn’t put make up on or brush my hair. That’s OK. Sometimes that’s the way it goes.
I could sit here and look at my daily checklist and berate myself for how poor a human I am, or I could be kind to myself and know that sometimes things don’t go to plan (I very nearly chose the first option). With all the pressure around the new year and needing to become a whole other person, it’s easy to get caught in comparisons and frustration. Don’t. Let’s just remember that we are all processing exactly what we need to process, at exactly the right time. For me, sometimes that looks like pushing an edge and really challenging my own resistance to change and patterns, and sometimes it looks like resting and doing nothing at all related to growth. It’s ALL part of the process.
I know what I’m capable of, and I know what support I need to get there. I am so grateful to the team of people I have around me who keep me focused, challenged, balanced, happy and safe
by Emma | Jan 2, 2020
Your past made you who you are today, but it won’t make you who you are tomorrow.
Who you become tomorrow is defined by the choices you make today. Right now.
If you want a different future, do something different now.
A little exercise for you:
Take a moment. Close your eyes.
Envisage all you want your life to be, how you want to feel, where you’ll live, who’ll be with you, what you’ll be doing…everything.
See it. Feel it. Hear it. Smell it.
Now feel into the person you need to be in order to make that a reality.
How does this person hold themselves, feel about themselves, treat themselves? How do they treat others?
Take a few moments to embody this person – become them for as long as you can.
Take this version of you into the present moment.
Change starts now
by Emma | Dec 31, 2019
I don’t believe in becoming ‘enlightened’. I don’t believe that one person is more ‘woke’ than another, or more conscious, or spiritually evolved or whatever you would like to call it.
That, to me, is spiritual bypassing. It’s putting yourself above another, or creating an idol of another, without recognising the oneness that is present in all of us. By saying, she’s on that level and I’m on this level, all we’re doing is creating the illusion of separateness, when most spiritual teachings speak of unity and oneness.
What I do see, is that we are all walking ourselves home, on our own journey, in our own unique and perfect way. It is not for us to judge if someone is ‘lost’ or ‘unconscious’. Maybe their ego is strong, but maybe that’s the journey their Higher Self chose for them. Maybe they don’t need us to interfere to help them ‘see the light’. Maybe, just maybe, they’re on the perfect path for them.
This year, I commit to trusting more. I commit to judging less, and knowing that everyone has their own sovereignty, and their own responsibilities, and that they know what they need to do for them. When people need help, or support, there will be a clear request for it, or an offer, given without expectation or strings. We can let people know we love them without needing to control or ‘guide’ them.
Loving without expectations. Reigning in our own egos and need to ‘help’ or rescue. This is the real lesson here
by Emma | Dec 29, 2019
Sometimes, it’s just a case of recognising that there isn’t anyone to blame. Everyone did their best. Sometimes the best doesn’t seem good enough, but it was everything they could give at the time. It was everything you could give at the time.
And maybe that doesn’t make sense, maybe you feel there was something extra that could have been done, and you can’t think for the life of you why you, or they, didn’t do it. Perhaps there just wasn’t enough love there?
So what’s your answer? To fight ‘not enough love’ with the withdrawal of love? To punish yourself or them because if there wasn’t enough love then, less love is definitely going to make things better in the future?
Or perhaps, we can admit that we just don’t know, why it happened the way it did, but that there’s an opportunity to recognise that there IS a need for MORE love, and less judgement. Can we give ourselves, or them, that gift? Can we honour whoever got hurt the first time around by that lack of love, by showing compassion and forgiveness this time?
Can we be open to the possibility that the answer to a lack of love is more love, not less?
This is my invitation, and my desire for us all, to allow more kindness into our lives, and to be as careful as we can be with our egos, and our words, to be kind to each other
by Emma | Dec 28, 2019
If you didn’t have anyone to go to, nowhere to run…if you only had yourself to look to for the answers to your problems, where would you start?
We so often run away from ourselves, from our pain and from our suffering, and instead project our fears and anger on to those around us, then tell them they are the ones who need to change, or get help, in order to make us feel better.
Yet, any journey – any true healing you undertake – whether it be through talking therapy or anything else, asks you to look within for your answers, it asks you to heal YOUR wounds, so the external world can reflect a more peaceful internal world.
So, if you couldn’t get anyone else to ‘fix’ your problem, and your only option was to look inside yourself, to really be with, experience and accept the parts of yourself you have hidden from, run away from and rejected for so long, what would that look like?
That – the helping you take responsibility for yourself – is where therapists and healers like myself can help, support, guide and hold you. This combination of ownership, vulnerability, honesty and courage between you and whomever you ask to support you, is what creates a powerful alchemical container for change.
If your heart is longing for the freedom, authenticity and love that comes from no longer hiding from yourself (nor anyone else), have a look at my current programmes and see if we’re a match (links in bio) <3 .
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