by Emma | May 4, 2020
She realised that what she desired, what she had felt was missing these last few weeks, was control. She had chosen to dis-empower herself, to choose the path of others, and wait to see what might happen. She made herself a victim of her circumstances. A stander-by in the play of her own life.
She thought she was powerless, but she was not. She thought she had to wait, to be told what to do, to take an enforced break from life, but she did not.
The only way through she realised, was to empower herself and remember that she could make a choice. She could use her agency and decide what she needed to do for her. She could decide how to adapt to changing circumstances. She could choose to live in fear, or choose to be an example of love.
If you’re feeling helpless, hopeless, or disinterested, where, or to whom, have you given your power?
Place your attention on what you CAN do, rather than what you can’t. Replace your stories of victim-hood with present moment awareness, and affirmative gratitude for what you are choosing now, instead of recreating the situations of the past by continually reaffirming your entitlement to be sad or challenged or in pain. You are entitled to feel that way, but I imagine you do not want to. That choice lies solely with you.
I would love to work with you if you are ready to make that choice, and would like support to do so. Message me
by Emma | May 2, 2020
When we say one thing, and do another, it leaves room for interpretation. It leaves room for confusion. It leaves room for fear, and unhappiness.
When we say one thing, and act in a way that is not representative of what we say we want, or who we say we are, we are out of alignment. A part of us is operating from a place of fear. What is stopping us owning what our heart is telling us is right for us? What is holding us back from being true to ourselves and having courage in our convictions? Are we scared of being judged? Are we scared of failing? Are we scared of hurting others with our truth?
We can only be judged when we judge ourselves.
We can only fail when we believe there is an option that isn’t meant for us.
We can only hurt others with our truth when we choose to believe we are separate and that our truth and highest good is different and separate from others’. Let me be really clear:
What is loving and good for you, is loving and good for everyone else. We are all connected. There can be no other way.
Show up. Honour yourself. Honour how you feel. Trust yourself. Trust that what is right for you, IS right. Full stop. Don’t feel the need to hide it by saying something different or acting against your truth. Get into alignment. Match your thoughts to your words to your actions. Watch everything become simpler as you become congruent with the truth of who you are
by Emma | Apr 26, 2020
I am the centre of my storm.
Whatever I feel is on me.
I get to choose to be at the eye of the storm, or thrown around on the outside of it.
I can sit in the patterning of my victim self, and show compassion for her, or I can step into the eye of my storm and control the direction of it.
I get to choose where to place my power.
There is no right or wrong, only love and compassion for all parts of myself
by Emma | Apr 24, 2020
The clearest explanation of the problem with forgiveness – from my ACIM teacher @jenniferhelenhadley :
Who taught you how to forgive?
What did they teach you?
How did they teach you?
Most of us were taught forgiveness from our family. And many of those who taught us taught us that forgiveness means you’re tired of being upset, and you don’t want to torture yourself anymore, but you’re never going to forget what happened. But that’s not true forgiveness. That’s fantasy forgiveness. And without true forgiveness there’s no way you’ll ever feel free and be able to stop the suffering and move on.
In order to understand what true forgiveness is, it helps to understand what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness isn’t saying “I forgive” and still holding onto your opinions about what happened the past.
Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened is okay and you don’t mind that it happened.
Forgiveness isn’t opening yourself to further hurt and betrayal.
Forgiveness isn’t something you can do with your intellect.
Forgiveness isn’t pretending that what happened didn’t hurt, or bother you.
Forgiveness isn’t just keeping calm and carrying on.
And most especially, forgiveness isn’t looking at something devastating and destructive that happened, labeling it bad and horrible and then saying “I forgive.” That’s insanity. It’s false just like the little child who says “I hate you” to his parent, but doesn’t mean it for one second. They’re just upset with what happened, they feel attacked, and their interpretation of what happened (that they were were attacked) justifies their retaliation. That’s the immature, ignorant and painful way of the world.
True forgiveness isn’t labeling something bad and wrong and then saying “I forgive it.”
That’s self-delusion.
When you say “I forgive” and it still bothers you, then you know for sure that you are clinging to your interpretation of what occurred. We cling to our opinions and judgment, our labels of things because we made them. Again, this is what children do. They hold onto something so tightly and they project their interpretation onto every subsequent similar experience.
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by Emma | Apr 22, 2020
Your heart does not care what recognition you get for your helping. It doesn’t care what you look like when you do it, how much credibility you have or get, how much you get paid for it, or who will notice you do it. It knows that we can only truly give without attachment when we love ourselves, because we are one, and so to give IS to receive.
Your opportunity might not show up in the way your ego wanted or expected. It might not come in the form of a dream job or a volunteer opportunity at an elephant sanctuary.
But it will come, and your heart will know that this will help you, as well as others. Don’t dismiss the seemingly small opportunities to be helpful, they are what change the world
