Control

Control

We cannot control others.We can never control others. Trying to, or trying to tailor our actions in order to elicit a particular response from someone else, never works. What we do have control over, is the power to elicit change within ourselves. It took me a long...
Keep it simple

Keep it simple

Life is simpler than we make it. It is not about decisions, what you have, what you need, where you need to be, what you need to do. It is about being kind. Am I being kind, in this moment, to myself, and those around me? If this is your only compass guiding you in...
Choose yourself

Choose yourself

She continued the practice of choosing herself, and realised something interesting in the process. When she really, truly, chose herself; when she honoured and respected herself enough to choose what was loving for her, it ended up being what was most loving for those...
Choosing pain

Choosing pain

Sometimes we choose to stay in our pain. That’s OK.Sometimes, there’s a wounded part within us that believes we deserve to feel bad, or that continuing to feel bad gives validity to our initial upset. If we were to suddenly feel better, would we invalidate...
Triggers

Triggers

My triggers are not real. This is something my teacher said on her podcast a few weeks ago, and I find myself circling back to it regularly. At first I found it triggering in itself. ‘Of course my triggers are real! I felt them. I didn’t like how I felt....