We cannot control others.
We can never control others. Trying to, or trying to tailor our actions in order to elicit a particular response from someone else, never works. What we do have control over, is the power to elicit change within ourselves. It took me a long time to be able to tell the difference between trying to control others, and accepting that I was part of the problem. By not changing my own perspective, thoughts or behaviour, I allowed other people to have power over how I felt.
Take back control and realise that only you can change you, and only they can change them. Work on cleaning up your side of the street and set an example for love.