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thoughts from me to you
There’s a good chance I’m autistic
There's a good chance I'm autistic. As a therapist, you might assume I'd have figured this important fact out a little earlier than the 38 years I've been living in this body, but apparently our blind spots can be quite big sometimes.That said, I am currently not...
Making changes
For those in the 'I KNOW I'm doing it, but I still do it!' frustrating stage of changing a habit or pattern of behaviour....Think of your change in terms of stages. You start off not knowing what you're doing or not doing that's not serving you (unconscious...
Ho’oponopono
Ho'oponopono is an Hawaiian healing practice, based on the principle that we are 100% responsible for everything that appears in our lives. This doesn't mean we consciously chose it, but it allows us to take back control and heal it (it is an empowering message).Once...
Right or happy?
Would you rather be happy, or right? Maybe you can be both, but if you're defending your position or arguing with someone, you're giving up your happiness and peace of mind in order to be right.
Boundaries 101
Too many people try to create and stick to boundaries to stop themselves saying yes when they mean no, no when they mean yes and generally getting walked all over BEFORE they get really clear on who they are. When you're solid on who you are and what you want, and...
You get to leave
This may sound obvious, but unless you are actually imprisoned (and I appreciate that is a very real situation for many right now) you get to leave a situation if it doesn't feel safe, if it triggers you or makes you uncomfortable. Your experience is valid. That...
Self-sabotage
She realised that she couldn't move forward whilst simultaneously rejecting or abandoning parts of herself.She couldn't leave part of herself behind on the journey. It was a part of her. She could reject it, or banish it to a deep dark corner of her being, but it...
Why I have a therapist
I've been working with my current therapist for the last eight years. For the first few years I saw her weekly, and now it's every other week.Yes, like all humans, I've had stuff to work through and heal, but for the most part now I see my therapist as a key part of...
Shining bright
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to...