This came up in my A Course in Miracles group recently, so I wanted to share some insight here too.

Why do bad things happen to good people. Why do bad things happen at all? Is it random? Is it punishment or karma for bad behaviour in this or another life? Why is life seemingly so unfair?

I’m not going to pretend that I can give you all the answers here, but I can explain what I believe, and what helps me sleep easier at night. I take my cue from A Course in Miracles, which is a metaphysical text that teaches love over fear. From the Course perspective, there is only one truth – Love. Everything else comes from fear, and is a call for love.

What I’m going to say about why bad things happen to good people probably isn’t going to make me a lot of friends, in fact, it might bring up quite a lot of hostility for you. I have to accept that everyone is on their own path and you don’t have to agree or resonate with what I’m saying. If you do hit a strong negative emotion though, I’d ask you just to sit with that a little and wonder why my words are hitting such a strong note with you.

Going back to a call for love…I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and that in every situation there is the opportunity to see with love and infuse loving energy into the situation. Sometimes that’s a lot harder than others. It’s easy to see with love when you’re in a happy place with people who love you. When you’re fearful or something awful has happened it becomes a lot harder.

When I’m hitting a crappy situation and I’m struggling to see any good in it, I remind myself that this is a lesson for me. Somehow, and somewhere, I have to dig deep and find an ability to see love in the situation. I’m not going to pretend that this is easy. I’ve cried and shouted with the best of them to get out my frustrations with the injustices I see in the world, but I’ve also come back to the fact that this must be happening for a reason, and if I can see with love, at least some good will have come of it.

If you’re wondering how to see a crappy situation with love, I guess that’s the $1m question but I’ll share what works for me.

  1. I acknowledge and honour what I’m feeling. I allow myself to feel angry or sad. Sometimes I’ll do a meditation to meet and dialogue with that part of myself so it really feels heard (think inner child meditation).
  2. I forgive myself for feeling fearful. I use EFT, Ho’oponopono or anything else to forgive the feelings.
  3. I ask to see the situation with love. I ask to see it differently.
  4. I realise any expectations I have for a specific outcome or feeling. I let go.

Those steps might seem simplistic, but they do work. Sometimes I have to do them multiple times to clear out the fear but it always works eventually, and I always feel much better afterwards.

I hope these steps help you to come to terms with different situations. It’s not easy, and I honour you for being open to trying something different.


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