Following on from my last post, I got told today that I was too much, too intense and required too much effort to be friends with. I nearly gave the guy a big F you but what I actually did was thank him for his honesty, leave, and cry on my friend's shoulder. I cried because sometimes, when someone inadvertently stabs at a wound, we question whether we should hold our head up high and be exactly who we are, no apologies....or look deep within ourselves to see if we're triggered because they're right, and we really are what they say. I cried because I have been told many times, in many ways, that I am too much. And then I cried because I realised that I had handled the situation less than gracefully, and less than I might have wanted. Instead of being true to myself and speaking out about how I was feeling, I shrunk away and became uncomfortable in my own skin. I made myself small to make someone else feel more comfortable, and in the process, they felt my energy and determined I was too much effort to be friends with. Being anything less than 100% yourself is a lose lose situation. It makes others just as uncomfortable as you are. I learned such a valuable lesson today. I learned that, even though I knew it already, I could no longer suffocate myself for the sake of someone else. It just suffocates all of us. I am a lot. I am intense with a big presence and I talk a lot about feelings and sometimes I get triggered and uncomfortable and it's ok if that's too much for some, but from now on, I will respect the other as well as myself by honouring myself, and letting them go the moment we feel it