Positivity is not an inherently good or bad thing. Please stop thinking that you can't acknowledge when you feel sad, or angry, or betrayed, or any other so called 'negative' emotion. It is impossible to negate anything. Denying something's existence doesn't make it disappear, it proves it's there because otherwise there would be nothing to deny. I'd much rather have a conversation with someone and feel the true depths of their emotion and realness, have them cry and shout and own their rage....than have some fake-ass conversation about how great their life is and how there's always a silver lining. Yes, we can learn from our experiences and find joy in life, but only after we accept what our current experience is and honour it as part of the journey