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Peace
Peace is not something we go find outside of ourselves. That's always annoyed me a bit. Peace seems very illusive sometimes. We want it, but we also don't always know how to 'get' it. Where is this 'peace'? Where does it live? If it's within me, why can't I access it...
Integrity
I've been thinking a lot about integrity recently. It's a word that has taken on a strong meaning for me in recent years. To be in integrity with yourself means to be integrated: as one with oneself.When we don't feel right within ourselves it's a signal that we're...
Being vs Doing
Some of us are programmed to Do. We find our safety, our comfort and our purpose in our output and in our doing. We measure our success by our progress and our confidence by our strength and achievements.Some of us are programmed to Be. We flow with our cycles and sit...
There’s a good chance I’m autistic
There's a good chance I'm autistic. As a therapist, you might assume I'd have figured this important fact out a little earlier than the 38 years I've been living in this body, but apparently our blind spots can be quite big sometimes.That said, I am currently not...
Making changes
For those in the 'I KNOW I'm doing it, but I still do it!' frustrating stage of changing a habit or pattern of behaviour....Think of your change in terms of stages. You start off not knowing what you're doing or not doing that's not serving you (unconscious...
Ho’oponopono
Ho'oponopono is an Hawaiian healing practice, based on the principle that we are 100% responsible for everything that appears in our lives. This doesn't mean we consciously chose it, but it allows us to take back control and heal it (it is an empowering message).Once...
Right or happy?
Would you rather be happy, or right? Maybe you can be both, but if you're defending your position or arguing with someone, you're giving up your happiness and peace of mind in order to be right.
Boundaries 101
Too many people try to create and stick to boundaries to stop themselves saying yes when they mean no, no when they mean yes and generally getting walked all over BEFORE they get really clear on who they are. When you're solid on who you are and what you want, and...
You get to leave
This may sound obvious, but unless you are actually imprisoned (and I appreciate that is a very real situation for many right now) you get to leave a situation if it doesn't feel safe, if it triggers you or makes you uncomfortable. Your experience is valid. That...