Life isn’t perfect.
You don’t always get what you want. Karma’s a bitch – because it travels with you through lives, meaning even if you act like a freaking saint now, you still could get stung because you happened to be a serial killer in a past life (I’m not sure what I was – always been a bit freaked out by the whole concept if I’m honest – but I could have been!).
All the talk about creating a life you want, it can happen, but for me it’s more about learning to see the good stuff and learning to learn from the bad stuff.
Blindly focusing on the ‘perfect’ life will stop you from appreciating the imperfect:
- That cappuccino that wasn’t quite as good as yesterday because it was pretty much cold by the time you walked ten minutes to the office from Starbucks at 6:30 in the morning in the snow. It’s still a semi-warm cappuccino with chocolate sprinkles at 6:30am.
- The fact your cold has got a touch better this morning even though you’ve had it now for two weeks and it’s really beginning to get on your nerves. Better late than never!
- The friends you can still trust and rely on even though a few close ones have let you down recently.
- The lovingly dysfunctional family who will always be there for you, no matter what.
- The Valentine’s you spent on your own, knowing that it was your choice and you are learning to get comfortable with yourself.
Have a think about what you’ve been complaining about recently; then embrace it – warts and all!
OK, so, despite feeling like crap (yes – I have in fact been ill for the last two weeks, the person I caught this off now has pneumonia so I’m really hoping I feel better soon) it’s a beautiful day outside and I need some fresh air so I’m venturing out for a walk around the marina by my flat. The photo for this post was taken last summer – it looks chillier today!
Great message Emma. Feels like the key point to understand here is that emotions are messages. Messages designed to help us take some specific action in specific circumstances.
For example lonelyness can be the indication that we need to seek quality human company in new ways or places.
The sooner we realise that bad things aren’t bad per say… they’re just our bodys way of telling us we need to change something, the sooner we stop feeling frustrated and begin questioning whats really going on inside to see what we really need to change.
Like you say, embrace the warts and all… they come to us for a reason 🙂
p.s. I had pneumonia this time last year, it can be common to suffer more from them when you’re going through a big upheaval spiritually. I did a bit of reading round as nothing from the doctor worked… cut an onion in half and leave it in your room at night to soack up all the nasties (apparently the people who survived the plague kept cut onions in their rooms). Also high doses of Vit-C has been proven to stave off servere flu and pneumonia although big pharma deny it. It worked for me anyways, but I’m no doctor!
Hi Holly,
Thanks so much for your comment. I’m glad the post made sense to you and you explained it well. Listen to your body and your feelings and what they’re trying to tell you, rather than assuming ‘bad’ is always ‘bad’.
I haven’t heard about the onion before but will give it a go! Hopefully I will kick the cold before it develops in to anything worse!
Take care,
Emma