I know, I know, big title right? This week I finished a block of coaching sessions with my business coach. It was an awesome and inspiring journey and as we sat there, either sides of the world connected by Skype, faces intermittently freezing whilst our voices continued to pop out through the keyboards of our macs, we reflected on who I was, who I am and what my goals were at the beginning of the program.
A few months ago, I listed out what I wanted from this coaching. Whilst it was about business, it was also about me and the life I wanted to create (and no, it wasn’t a certain someone’s online course) and getting really clear on who I wanted to help.
One of the main goals I had was to be more in tune with myself, the Universe and what I was supposed to be doing. I guess you could argue that this wasn’t a ‘business goal’, but since we live in a world where people can see and talk to each other 3000 miles apart and there are people making business and money whilst sat on a beach in Bali, I think I get to take some artistic licence with that.
So, in my goal list there was a big bullet point where I wrote, hand on heart and feeling somewhat foolish, wondering what this business coach would make of my non-business goal…that I wanted to get back in to my meditation practice.
As a bit of back story I got in to meditation whilst learning yoga, but only truly started practicing when an eating disorder left me physically unable to practice my normal yoga. When my body grew in strength, my meditation practice dwindled as I picked up the physical practice again. Although I missed my meditation and the clarity it gave me, I somehow never got back to it properly.
When my coach read out that goal this week, I almost fell off my chair. I’d completely forgotten I’d written it. Seemingly by complete chance, in these few months, I had been guided to find Gabrielle Bernstein’s work which reignited my passion for meditation and I now have a daily meditation practice!
Now that’s just one thing, but it got me to thinking about the bigger picture. Where I am now to where I was a few years ago.
Back in 2009, I was in a job that didn’t do anything at all to nourish my soul, but it was my family’s business and was secure and stable. I dreamt and dreamt of a more fulfilling life, one where I got up every morning excited about my life, where I felt free and spiritually nourished and where I felt I was making a difference in peoples’ lives. I used to dream about teaching yoga and talking to women and encouraging them to meditate. In those moments of daydreaming, I felt so happy!
The trouble was, at that stage, I had zero idea how that would ever happen. I felt trapped and unable to leave the family business and had a firm belief that you couldn’t make money doing what you loved; you had to make sacrifices.
When I look at my life now, I see that everything I wanted has come to fruition, seemingly without much effort on my part to figure out the ‘how’. At each stage, slowly but surely, I felt called to take action on something. I had ideas as to why, but they were never right. I did my yoga teacher training thinking I could teach yoga on a beach somewhere, but after I qualified I realised I wanted to do more – I wanted to connect with women one on one and on a soul level, so I signed up to train to be a therapist.
It’s only when I finished that training that I realised how it all fitted together. My training and life lessons had guided me to a place where I could work with women holistically, and know my message – that it’s only by being selfish that we can know true happiness, and be able to share that happiness with the world.
So I know you’re probably trying to figure out how I managed to manifest this incredible life over the course of five years. The truth is, it wasn’t all that conscious, and, if I’d known then what I know now, it might have been a whole lot quicker, but I had lessons to learn and I’m so grateful I was given the opportunity to learn them so I can share them with you.
Be grateful for what you have now – I know, sometimes it’s super hard but if you want to manifest a life you love, you have to be sending out positive vibes in to the world. If you’re focusing on your lack, you’ll attract more lack. Be mindful of what you say when you talk to people. Do you say I wish I had, or my partner really annoys me or I’m always broke? You’re create blocks for yourself. Work on taking them down by being more grateful for what you have now and for the opportunity for more abundance to come in to your life.
Get out of your own way – Don’t think you have all the answers. You don’t. There’s a bigger plan for you than you could even imagine so chill out, focus on the next right step, follow your intuition and be open to the bigger plans. Don’t block the great stuff so you can hold on to the good stuff.
Trust in the process – It took my five years and my story is so far from over I feel like it’s just beginning. Enjoy the process and the learning lessons you’ll be presented with. Enjoy living your life and seeing the beauty in the little things. Trust that if you do your practice, all is coming to you. If you have a tendency for impatience, get an affirmation app for your phone and set the reminder ‘Lead with love’ to pop up at regular intervals to remind you that in any situation, take a breath and respond from a place of love. You will see an incredible difference in your life and relationships.
That’s it. It really isn’t as hard as people make out. It’s actually easy if you just get out of your own way and lead a joyful life. If you think you might need a kick start with this, schedule a chat with me as I offer a couple of packages to really help shift your mindset to get you in to a good place to start manifesting the life of your dreams!