I wondered what I’d tell him, if I saw him again today.
I hope I’d look him in his annoyingly blue eyes, like I really didn’t care, and casually tell him that I didn’t know what I wanted my life to look like in five years time;
I’d tell him that I didn’t know if I wanted to stay in the same job or grow my business;
that I didn’t know if I wanted to live in London or Wales with my family or Liverpool where I called home for so long;
that I didn’t know if I wanted to live abroad again and teach yoga on a beach in Thailand, or whether I’d be content seeing Machu Picchu in my holidays
…and I wanted to tell him that none of that mattered, because I was focused on enjoying what life had to offer me now.
And that made me think. Am I?!
That had always intimidated me on some level. Not a great quality in a potential boyfriend. Probably best he never lasted.
How dare he question my handle on my life; of what I was doing and where I was going?
But then, perhaps he didn’t. Perhaps he asked me, and it scared me that I didn’t have all the answers.
Now of course, because isn’t hindsight just a bitch, I realise that I didn’t have all the answers then, and I don’t have them all now. I don’t want them. Life would be super boring if it was already all mapped out.
All that really matters, is that right now, in this moment, you’re having fun; that there’s something in your life which is making you smile. The rest fades away to distant memories.
Icompletely get where you are coming from with this, but what happens when you look at the here and now and noting makes you smile.
Thanks for your thoughts – really appreciate you sharing!
If you’re looking at your life right now and nothing makes you smile, I would say (and please forgive the hippiness here, but it works) meditate, do yoga, talk to someone and figure out how to find peace in your life by accepting it as it is, or find joy in your life by choosing to change something in it.
Spend some time in mindfulness. Go and watch a sunset, or buy a plant and observe how it grows, one day after the other, absorbing energy from the sun and nutrients from the soil. There is always joy to be found somewhere, unless you’re depressed; in which case, I know how much that sucks and highly recommend counselling (with me).