Everything’s going wrong!
Why can’t it just be the way I want?
How is this fair?
Every caught yourself asking yourself those questions or bitching (and often rightly so) about the stuff that’s going on for you or in the world? I think we all have and do – it’s our natural reaction to bad stuff: a sense of indignation and injustice.
For today though, I want to turn that around to instead ask, What can I learn from this? Big shift right? What can I learn from this?
What does this teach me about myself and how I handle this sort of situation?
What do my feelings tell me about what’s really going on here?
How can I deal with this situation or person better in the future?
I’ve recently been spending a lot more time in meditation than I have done, probably since I wasn’t eating properly back in 2006/2007 and it’s opened up my internal world and my connection to something bigger than myself all over again.
A LOT of stuff has come out of my meditations, but what I’ve realised most is how important it is for me to ask that question – What can I learn from this? and What does this teach me about myself? When I’ve looked at situations from this perspective, I can see how these situations were created for me to learn from and to teach me about myself so I could grow and let go of some long-standing hang ups I wasn’t even aware of.
For example, I realised that I linked the idea of someone caring about me to the amount of contact I had with them. That seems crazy to me as there are old friends I have who I don’t speak to one month to the next but I know I love them dearly and if they ever needed me I’d be there. Being made aware of this tiny subconscious feeling allowed me to shine a light on it and move through it. Granted letting go of old patterns isn’t the easiest thing in the world to do, at ALL, but it possible with committed effort and conscious awareness.
Keep asking yourself the questions and wait and listen for the answers. They’ll come. Trust and have faith in yourself and your intuition.
As always, let me know your thoughts in the comments below or ask me anything and I’ll help as best I can!
