When was the last time you did something fun? Not for anyone else, not because your friend needed a wing-women, or because there was an offer on at your favourite spa. When was the last time you did something totally fun, with no strings, just because you could and it felt good? Double points if you had to face resistance from loved ones for doing it / being ‘selfish’ or whatever.
I realised it had been quite a while since I just had fun with no ulterior motive, or without feeling guilty in some way that I should be doing something more productive with my time or helping someone else. When I looked into why it might be that I’d ignored my own sense of fun and self-care, while vehemently arguing for it’s importance in other peoples’ lives, it took me a while to really see what what going on.
Bottom line, I felt guilty. I felt guilty having fun when I should have been building my business or helping my parents or training my puppy. I felt guilty because ultimately what was fun?! Frivolous, non-meaning, no strings, useless. OMG. I’d somehow in my warped mind created a place where having fun was useless to me.
As if by magic [read: divine intervention] a few weeks ago, I was given the opportunity to do something spontaneous and fun. There was nothing to gain for me other than being able to *shock horror* have fun.
Whilst I could have said no to this seemingly frivolous way to spend some of my time, I realised that this was probably a sign that I should learn to loosen up a bit, so I said Yes! to fun and went with it.
Nothing bad happened. No-one died. My business didn’t fail. My parents didn’t disown me. I was doing everything I was doing before but was more relaxed and happy doing it.
I believe that we are here to find the joy in life, and for no other reason that that. To love more, to live joyously and enjoy life. So if you’ve been holding back from having fun out of guilt, time constraints, family or friends who seem to want you to work yourself to death, or anything else, I encourage you to work out what’s so awful about dedicating a little time to yourself for pure, unadulterated fun, and just go for it!