Our brains like to make sense of things. It’s why as children, if we experience abandonment or trauma, we often internalise it as being our fault, because our brains need answers and our cognitive ability isn’t able to understand the wider context.We take...
Something on loss:When we lose someone, or perhaps even a beloved pet, there is often an urge to ‘fill the hole’ left with another person, a new relationship, a new pet. That strategy can seem to work temporarily, but when you put your happiness outside of...
There’s a couple of miraculous moments that happen in a healing process, when you know all the tears, all the frustration, blame, guilt and shame, and all the work you’ve been doing to heal them are finally starting to make a difference.The first is when...
“She was so painfully aware that she was a peripheral in almost everyone’s lives and never front and centre. If she disappeared, there were a couple of people who would notice and miss her, but for all the love she gave and all the effort she made, she...
Something that I’ve found helpful to work with the last week or so….A Course in Miracles is annoyingly clear when it comes to how to respond to others. Everything….everything is either love, or a call for love. That means if something doesn’t...
